Earlier in the year, I gave you a sneak peek into my core desired feelings for 2016. These are the feelings I based my 2016 goals upon (thanks
to Danielle LaPorte’s awesome book The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul. Throughout the year I plan on doing a blog post on each of these core feelings, why I chose them and why I think they are important – not just for me, but for everyone to consider.
Of all the desired feelings I came up with, this was probably the one I felt the most excited about. If I was going to pick one word for the year (like many of you do), it would be this one.
Well maybe the first question, is what does connection mean? Connection is defined as
So when I think about that definition, what comes to mind to me is having strong and meaningful relationships with other people. Specifically for me, those relationships include my spouse, kids, family and friends. In addition, I don’t want to let my everyday encounters with people in my life be superficial or meaningless. I believe that taking the time to look someone in the eye and engage with them adds so much joy and happiness to life.
Interestingly enough, this topic has been coming up again and again in my life – in sermons at church, in discussions with friends, in books I’ve been reading. Enough places that I am coming to see that this is something that all of us feel and need – the need to “belong,” to be seen, to connect. And sadly, it’s really lacking for a lot of people. We either get too busy or it just seems like too much work to make the effort. That’s why it’s a core desire for me – I want to be reminded daily that I’m never too busy to make time for the people that are important in my life.
What are my plans?
Since connection looks different for all of us, some of these might make perfect sense to you, or you might have another way of going about it. This is what I plan to do:
- 1×1 dates with my kids (I’ve already been doing this for years, but it will continue)
- more date nights (at least 2x a month – we’ve been lax on this once the built in weekly Grandma babysitter ended)
- 2-3 x of getting together with friends
- committing to my weekly bible study group
- being more engaged with my mastermind groups and accountability partners
- when given the choice, saying YES to connection
What will success look like?
One of the tough things about having a core desired feeling or one-word for the year type resolution is to figure out how to determine success. I don’t want success to look like a bunch of check marks on my to-do list, but whether I feel more connected to my life and the people in it at the end of 2016. That will be my measure of success.
Interested in the topic of connection? Me too – and I’ve found some really great resources on the topic:
In fact, I plan on re-reading all of these in the month of February and will be posting later this month some of the lessons I gleaned and how I applied them to my desired feeling of connection.
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