As I mentioned last week, this year I have a few very specific goals in each of the important areas of my life. Goals I’ll be concentrating on and reviewing each quarter. I’ve outlined nine areas, so I’ll cover three each week for the rest of the month. I know many of us are hammering out our plans and goals for the year so hopefully this will spark some excitement or give you some good ideas on how to achieve the ones you’ve set.
The first three goals are ones I believe ALL of us busy moms feel are important – they all center around relationships. Now your relationship areas might be different than mine, but I’d be willing to bet you have some relationships in your life that are important to you and that you’d like to keep in mind and keep growing as 2017 unfolds.
- Spouse. Why? Pretty obvious I think, but especially now as our kids are in such a busy time of life – it’s very easy to get caught up in the “divide and conquer” method of parenting. Efficient, yes, but also isolating. So in 2017 I want to be intentional about making time for my spouse and not letting the busyness of this season take over. How? Weekly date nights, walking the dog together, making sure to talk for 10 – 15 minutes each evening (at a minimum and not about scheduling), and also Monday morning planning sessions to figure out who is doing what – that way that topic will hopefully not take over the other time we spend together. Also at least a few getaways without kiddos.
- Kids. Why? I see being a parent as the most important job I have. It is my responsibility to ensure my kids get what they need to be helpful, happy members of our society. Plus I only get to have them around for a few short years, so I’d better make the most of that time! How? Weekly one-on-one time, switch nights for “tucking in” with my husband so we each get some quality time (something about night time makes those kids want to talk your ear off), asking them for help around the house (that being helpful thing!), asking them for the three best things that happened each day (during dinner or nightly tuck-in time), and a weekly fun family event.
- Other family/friends. Why? Just like with my spouse, as the kids schedules get crazy, and I’m jumping around between work, household and family, it’s really easy to just let this area of life go. To just tell myself I don’t have time right now. That’s not what I want for my life and it’s not how I want my family and friends to feel. I want them to know they can count on me and that they are an important part of my life. How? Scheduling a monthly girls night out, scheduling couple dates a few times a month, having friends over regardless of the state of my home, cheering them on when needed and jumping in to help in times of trouble. Connecting with someone each and every day – be it a phone call, text, email or letter.
Is this a lot to do? Yes and no. I’m already doing most of the “action items”, so it’s really just being a bit more intentional about it and making the moments and actions count. Do you ever set goals around your “roles” or relationships? How do you do it? What types of goals do you set? How do you measure success? I’d love to see your thoughts in the comments or on the Facebook page!